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Stopped Caring about what Other people think

FullSizeRenderEmbrace yourself, Value yourself and be proud of yourself

I learned a lesson many years ago after passing through an experience in my life, i had spend years trying to please other people, wanting them to recognize the good in me, yet they end up murdering my name and blackmailing my image .You cannot control who will like you, who will speak kindly of you, who will judge you, who will love you, who will treat you unfairly, who will support you, who will spread lies about you, or who will be your biggest fan. We literally cannot control how any other person is going to feel, think, or treat us.

I keep on lying to myself by saying i care less of what they say but in my heart i do care because i really want to know why i was a topic for unnecessary people.

i fought with myself for no reasons, its provoke me to speak my inner out but as time pass by as i grow i realized that my entire Community isn’t doing me good, majority end up…..

. Damaged . Unhappy . Broken . Confused . Frustrated . Lonely , etc.

I realized that their Life situations lead them to damage others, they feel comfortable in false stories spread around because thats how they live their lives  !!

Thanks to my wonderful Husband for helping me out of that situation and feelings i had, he knows me much better than everyone on this earth apart from GOD, he encouraged me, advised me and helped me out completely enable to live the happy life i always wish to live without anybody’s pulling me down !!

False Opinion

IMG_3161People have a tendency to talk when they don’t know what to say. So next time when someone says something about you, ignore it because its just empty words !! You will never get to where you need to go in life if  you are constantly worried about what others think. Time will come where you have to put your pride and your reputation on the line to get what you want. Who gives anyone the authority to think his or her opinion is the right one ? I don’t need to live my  life following ideal notions of what people want to see. I can break out of that and just be myself. It took a long time to figure out, but the secret to life really is not giving a damn. Because caring about what other people think will never bring you happiness rather damage you.

How many of you thoughts are devoted to the opinion of others ? That heavy burden that weights down on you day in and day out, stems from the opinions of other people.

One insult has the ability to send to the deepest depths of misery and self loathing. When we become so obsessed with other people`s opinion of, you forget your own

 Life is Beautiful

FullSizeRender-2We are all blessed with a wounderful life, so why the hell would you spend it worried about other people`s opinion ? Do whatever pleases your life, be whoever you want to be, live the life like there is no tomorrow and be happy with your situation, all fingers are not the same. We thinks about a lot of things everyday that we shouldn`t have to think about.

What are they thinking about me ?

How does my life look to others ?

Imagine how free you would be if you let go of all those thought, Imagine if you just stopped caring , make an effort to stop giving a damn to free yourself. Its a method that needs to be practiced, and once you understand how to let go, you will see the world different .

Once you give up catering to other people, you will find out who you are and that beautiful freedom will be like taking a breath for the first time 😉

You are the Hero of your own Life, people don’t care about you, they just make judgements which doesn’t mean anything. There are a lot of stupid people out there, who want to see you fail in LIFE. It`s human nature, their opinions aren’t worth in your world by caring what they think.

Focus on God

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Leave the rest to the Almighty God and have faith ! I had to first block out everyone else opinions of me and instead focus all my attend on being the girl i want God to see in me, God is the only person i needed to worry about pleasing.

The best part is God doesn’t play favorites in who he cares and love, God will never tell you that you are not enough, only you knows where your own relationship with God stands, nobody else.

Letting Go

FullSizeRender-3Letting go and moving on from people has got to be one of the hardest things to do ; and I think a lot of times we  hold on too because we just don’t know how to let go. A few years ago some friends of mine and I parted ways in what seemed like an unexpected break up but it really helped me to gain my freedom completely  back and no more a public figure for them. Before I could make a strong commitment to self-care, I had to get rid of certain people, places and things from my life.

Letting go and moving on does not mean you have failed. True failure only comes with never having tried for something in the first place. Acknowledging, on the other hand, that something you tried didn’t work is incredibly valuable because it gives you an opportunity to learn, make changes and try again.

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I thank my God for graciously granting me the opportunity of learning that death is the key which unlocks the door to our true happiness.

How was your experience and how do you feel today ?

Let`s share our thoughts together 😉

Thanks for reading

Hugs 🤗 🤗

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10 thoughts on “Stopped Caring about what Other people think”

  1. That is a great message and I enjoyed reading it Abi. Am glad you’ve found the right path . I mean seriously, without nasty, cruel and unhappy people in this world, we won’t be pushed enough to achieve the best things we want for our lives. So in away they don’t even realize that they bring the best in us . LOL if only they were that smart….
    Thanks for sharing.

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  2. I can totally relate. I have had to struggle with this myself every single day but in the end I remind myself of who I am and I push forward. In my case, this constant battle became real when I moved into a different society. I am happy to see more sisters discover that nobody is responsible for our happiness except ourselves. Girl keep the glow because it can only get brighter. 😉

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  3. I enjoyed reading this. I feel like us people-pleasers are making a break-through, and girl is time for it! I don’t know how old you are but I’m almost 30 and I want to move forward with stronger confidence and self-love; that’s what I write about all the time! I once heard that “Hurt people hurt people.” Like you said, they have something their dealing with and projecting it onto you. Don’t worry about it. Just live your happy life and pay them no mind. It’s great that you have a supportive husband too!

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    1. Exactly my dear, I was scared to take the step which will hurt others around me till the time came to do so, I’m not regretting anything because majority of friends around were hurt and there was absolutely nothing I could do to help them , they were rather pulling me do. I’m really grateful to have a husband who knows me and laugh over people around me claiming knowing me, he is my best friend in my life, very supportive husband 🙏🏽😊 !!

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      1. I go through those thoughts when writing my posts too. I just weigh the odds and see if I can mask it so that the person doesn’t see that it is about them in particular but that I’m talking about life in general. We’ll make it. #TheLifeOfABlogger

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      2. likewise me, i decided not to go deep in details by naming, its all about experience, there are a lot of Victims out there who are scared to speak or point out just because of what others will think or talk about them…
        Our blog posts are all in GENERAL !!
        😉 🤗

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